hmmm… in my environment it works both ways. Just to make sure you set up the VLC on the remote box properly:
Assuming your V-Control box has the IP 192.168.1.10 and the VLC box has 192.168.1.11 you have to start VLC with
vlc –extraintf rc –rc-host 192.168.1.11:20333
Of course you can change the port 20333 to what you want, but keep in mind that under Linux you can’t access ports lower 1024 without admin privilege